Every time there comes a time when Ben wakes up and he wants to change his life. Sometimes he wants to start exercising and get in shape, other times he wants to read more books or start a meditation practice. So he decides that he is going to make it his new habit. The first few days go very well, as Ben feels inspired and excited about it. But as more days pass, his so-called "new habit" does not excite him. So Ben tells himself, "It's fine, I'll do it tomorrow." Then tomorrow turns around and he still doesn't feel like doing it. Then he says; "tomorrow." This keeps on happening until his fresh new habit is almost forgotten. However, Ben is not alone in his struggles, as we have all been at one point in time. But why does this happen? Why is it so difficult to follow our new habits? Well, one reason for this is that the habit we are trying to create may seem a bit overwhelming, so we have this mental resistance. In the beginning, when we are super motivated it is very easy to do something.
Examples; Going to the gym for 1 hour does not seem difficult, as early motivation is a powerful driving force. But when we are motivated it is easy to impose some super high expectations on ourselves. We think; "Okay, so I went to the gym for the first few days. From now on I will go to the gym for 1 hour every single day." But once the initial motivation fades away after a few days, there is now nothing that is pushing us forward, and we have not yet formed a habit. That is why when we are infallible, we will probably leave the gym altogether, as it seems difficult to dedicate an entire hour to it. So instead of relying on motivation to push us forward, we should focus on creating our new habit, real habit.
1 Let go of people and situations.
Don't scroll through the possible options. It happened as it happened. When letting go is difficult, ask two questions:
"Will it be important to me in 5 years?"
“I'm flying to Buenos Aires tonight (any place you want to visit), will I take this problem with me?”
2 At the end of each week, answer the following questions:
"What did I learn last week?"
"What's your biggest achievement in a week?"
What was your most memorable moment this week and why?
“Have I wasted time on something? If so, what for? "
3 Watch your appearance.
Always be ready for new achievements and unexpected encounters.
"Hello! My head does not fit... I dreamed of meeting you all my life! Uh... Just excuse me, today I don't look very good... I got tired, you know... "
4 Don't whine or complain about fate.
Stand up silently, go, and do whatever is necessary.
5 Travel!
Travel twice a year where you have never been. Traveling will help you find yourself.
6 Allow yourself to make mistakes.
Missing something - don't miss a lesson from this. A mistake is a great opportunity for development.
7 Develop personality
You are who you are. You are not competing with anyone but yourself.
8 Make your own decisions.
Do not cook according to someone else's recipes.
9 Don't be intrusive.
The world is huge - there is someone in it who will be happy, receiving exactly your look and smile.
10 Meditate every day.
Learn to relax and concentrate.
11 Smile if something doesn't work out as you planned.
Remember, not getting what you want is sometimes luck.
12 Learn to say NO.
Don't be afraid to refuse!
- Would you like to make a courtesy visit? No?
- No!
13 Evaluate every word you speak for truthfulness, helpfulness, and kindness.
Speak in essence, nothing superfluous. NO - gossip, lies, and complaints! Better keep quiet if you have nothing to say.
14 Think.
Before making a decision, estimate its cost.
15 If you manage to get very angry with someone - wait 24 hours before answering.
16 Be independent and self-sufficient.
Your happiness depends only on you, and not on how other people think and act.
17 Respect yourself and others.
The person chooses himself. Do not interfere in matters that do not concern you. Do not look into someone else's life with thoughts and words - do not lose sight of Your choice!
18 Act exclusively within your sphere of influence.
Don't worry about what you can't influence.
19 Be outdoors every day.
Regardless of the weather and mood.
20 Believe in dreams and ideas.
Time is not linear. They have already come true!
21 Develop talents.
Remember, you have them! Just open your eyes.
22 Be responsible for your words and actions.
Your words are powerful.
23 Be faithful. People, principles, and choices.
“Being faithful is not an innate quality. This is the solution! "
24 If there is a case, work on which will take less than 3 minutes, it should be done immediately.
Don't put it in an oooo long box. Nothing fits there for a long time.
25 Monitor your health.
It is one. You have achievements ahead of you - health will be needed for their implementation. Sports, yoga, meditation will help. Check it out!
26 Find inner peace and harmony.
The true strength of a person is manifested not in impulses, but calmness.
27 Accept that the past is in the past.
It doesn't exist! Gain experience, let go and move on.
28 Prioritize.
Everything has its place.
29 Conquer fears.
Fear is just an illusion.
30 Never give up!
Perseverance and tenacity are always rewarded.
Be smart
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